Life can be a sea of unpredictability and we’re all trying to stay afloat, preferably on a sturdy raft, without any punctures, and with some chocolate chip cookies. Some days, the waters are calm; on others, it’s as if the sea is personally offended by our existence.
But anger … anger is like the unexpected squall that takes us by surprise. The suddenness of its arrival, the ferocity, and, sometimes the aftermath can leave us wondering: “Where did that come from?”
In the idyllic world of our imagination, we’d like to believe that anger is just the warm fire on the camp that keeps the mosquitos away. But sometimes, that small fire flares up, scorching everyone around.
Signs That Anger May Be Signaling Deeper Issues
The point is anger happens. To be human is to get angry once in a while. And we even hurt people out of anger. But when is the anger too much? When are the apologies too frequent? What are the signs of anger issues? Here are a few points to consider.
- Sudden, explosive reactions to minor provocations.
- Regret or guilt after an angry outburst.
- Consistent feelings of being misunderstood or unappreciated, leading to resentment.
- Physical symptoms, such as tension, tightness in the chest, or headaches when angered.
- Avoidance – friends or family subtly distancing themselves due to your anger.
- Consistent use of alcohol or drugs to suppress or deal with emotions.
- Issues at work or school resulting from confrontations or suppressed anger.
Anger Issues By the Numbers
Now, while all of us feel anger from time to time, some statistics shed light on its more extensive presence in society:
- Around 9% of adults in the U.S. have a history of severe, impulsive angry behavior.
- 1 in 10 U.S. adults have regular outbursts but don’t seek the help they need.
- Those with anger issues are 5 times more likely to experience poor health outcomes, including cardiovascular disease.
Alright, breathe. We’re in this together. If the fire is burning a little too brightly inside, the universe (and modern psychology) has some answers.
What Disorders Are Associated with Anger?
Anger can sometimes be the tip of the emotional iceberg, hinting at deeper issues lurking below the surface:
- Depression: It’s not just sadness. Many people experience anger, irritability, and frustration.
- Anxiety Disorders: Chronic anger can often be a coping mechanism for underlying anxiety.
- Bipolar Disorder: Manic phases can manifest as periods of intense irritability and anger.
- Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED): Characterized by sudden, unwarranted episodes of anger.
- Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): Intense anger episodes, often in response to perceived rejection.
- Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD): Impulsivity and frustration can lead to angry outbursts.
Therapy: A Torch in the Dark
Does therapy help? Emphatically, yes. Just like we might need a guide in an unknown forest, therapy provides a roadmap for navigating the complex paths of our minds.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): It helps individuals recognize patterns of thinking that lead to anger and teaches coping strategies.
- Anger Management: Structured programs providing tools and strategies to control anger.
- Mindfulness and Meditation: Focusing on the present, grounding us, and giving space between stimulus and reaction.
- Talk Therapy: A safe space to discuss and process emotions, often revealing underlying issues.
What to Do About Signs of Anger Issues
So, when does anger signal deeper problems? When it’s chronic, when it’s hurting you or others, when it’s affecting your health, or when it feels uncontrollable. Recognizing that you’re not alone is the first step. Seeking help, the second. You need a reset—someone who can come beside you and help you reconfigure how you understand yourself.
Lido Wellness Center: Your Harbor in the Storm
Life sometimes paints outside the lines. But just as every tempest needs its lighthouse, every soul deserves its sanctuary. Lido Wellness Center in Newport Beach has an Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) that understands the waves you’re sailing on.
When the waters get rough, when you feel adrift, remember that anchors exist. This is your call to the harbor, where dedicated professionals await with open hearts, a listening ear, and therapeutic tools that have guided countless souls back to the sunlit shores of hope.
Reach out to Lido Wellness Center. Let the journey to calm waters begin.